Why do we all love jerks?

Has it ever occurred to you that one day you woke up, you feel like life is going so smoothly and so well that you are starting to freak out?

When we are available, we complain not having someone to share intimacy. When we are seeing someone, we cannot stop spotting his bad. And here comes the worst thing, when we have a choice.

When we are seeing several guys in a row, we compare them and maybe think about which to put more attention on.

- He is cute and loving.
- He is rich and I like the sex with him.
- He is a jerk but there is something with him that I just can't get over.

Yes, that is the case. A good catch can never beat a jerk. We meet the perfect man in the daytime and at the end of the day, we just feel there is something missing and all we can think of is that jerk. So, here goes the devil's hotline. When he picks up the call and says he would be coming over, we cannot help but making ourselves look cool before he comes- airbrush, candles, scents, music, red.... Hmmm, what if he does not pick up the phone? We text. While we are waiting, we think about all his good. Maybe we don't like him being too aggressive, too blunt, and too irresponsible. But so what? He makes moves because he wants me badly, which means he cares and likes me. He does not have enough time but we had fun...

When he texts back, oh my god, we go crazy. He says yes- we continue to make hair, choose dresses.... He says no- we ask and try to figure out a time to meet. Our desire just gets stronger and stronger and so we tell ourselves that we hate this man in the day but we eventually want to sleep with him- that's love.

It takes time for us to realize, or well, to face the truth. Then we find out he is totally a jerk. But what does that matter? We will find the next jerk and probably we love this jerk at some point. Yes, we find the right jerk.

So you ask me why do we all love jerks? Because we don't want easy. Honey it is that simple. You want to avoid jerks? You need to change the default then.