how to pick up a guy at the bar

I've got this question a lot- how to talk to a guy at the bar?

Before that, you would want to know first what kind of guy you are looking for, and according to that, find the bar you will be going. Easy.

If you are looking at a college kid, then yes, those sports bars just outside of campus are the place you would want to go to. There was a sports bar in my college where all the athletes would like to go. There was always a line in front of the door. I still don't know whether the place was small, or just too many people there constantly. It was all the college fantasy you could think of. Cheap drinks, hot football players, crop-top chicks, greasy floor with drink stains, loud talk, billboard music, overly crowded dancing pool where one body touches another... You know, the young hormones filled with the smell of pheromone.

The next question being, how to pick up guys in college sports bar. A quick wrap up, there are tons of guys and gurls, and they always show in groups, even if not, they will be finding their friends in just a flash second. So, if you're alone, it might be a bit weird- Come on, who would go there alone? Won't you even be overwhelmed? Couldn't you find a friend? Literally, honey, on a Friday night you are alone in a busy sports bar where everyone everyone almost knows everyone everyone? So. please bring friends, the more, the better. You would want to keep a group, remember the cheerleader effect? Then yes, just chatting with your girl friends, checking out with guys. So once you aim at a group, smile tricks? Nah, it takes too long, and does not necessarily work. I mean, what if there are other girls cut in before you? Go to the dancing pool. The good thing about a college sports club is that, you can literally dance anywhere. Let the most outgoing girl go ahead, and start to dance around the guy. Others can just follow, when the first girl stops and talks to one of them. Well then, you can talk about the music, tease your friend a bit if the guy seems fun, simply ask what the guy is drinking works, "how's it going" never goes wrong, or just dance.

Then, if you are looking for a lot a lot, of people well-dressed, at least that night, you know where to go- the IT night clubs for younger ones, and those hotel bars and rooftop bars for more mature men. As opposed to wearing random crop-tops and at most a cute skirt in the college sports club, you should wear HEELS or better, heeled knee-high boots, a little black dress is easy and always a go-to. If you dare, red dress makes you stand out in the crowd. Go with one or two friends, or maybe alone- just make sure you can justify yourself when asked why you are alone- argh, my friend stood me up, cliche and an obvious lie, but no one cares; oh I had a long day, and I really need a drink, easy, and opens up a conversation; well, I'm new to town, and just decide to check out the night club scene, seemingly vulnerable, and you may have gained yourself a reason for some future dates, you know, just to check out the city. Find a crowded spot, so you can have tons of guys to pick, maybe go to the dancing pool if there's the guy. Chat with your friends somewhere, purposefully laugh, and make some moves. Or you can walk around to get more exposure and also see more people.


An easy choice is always the small little cute bars around the corner, or everywhere. I guess you might be able to go alone, but I will suggest you not to- what if it is not busy at all, you will look awkward in a small crowd- like a lonely person drinking alone, oh, nope. Dress code- semi dressy to casual dressy ;) Sit at the bar, that always sounds a good idea. The seating there is open, and almost everyone will notice, because it is the bar. That's when you will have people air-toasting with you. Take your time. Things are slow there. Facial flirting works- eyes on him, smile at him. If you have a friend, you guys either chat constantly and laugh a lot, anything but definitely not look bored. If you dare, write your number on the napkin underneath his glass- that's cute and adventurous.

I guess, then, the hardest should be those fancy boutique bars; they are not everywhere, can be bar area in those high-end restaurants, or some hotel lobby bars. They are where the people gather after work dinner and conferences. They are often times so engaged in a conversation, and very familiar with those little tricks you play. Well, remember, always dress to impress, sit next to the guy you like if you are at the bar; if not, pass him on your way to the bathroom, and start a conversation- compliment on his shirt, or you can do better, make some opinions on anything relates to the paper on the table or some words he just said, or even some drama- that really depends on your luck. You can always smile and look pretty. But I don't know, maybe it takes a while, maybe it never comes. Bathroom encounter sounds fun.

I am very aggressive, and I am not shy to make the first move if needed. Simple eye contact can work. Hey, with all that being said, please don't forget your whole point of going to a bar- to have fun. Don't let guys be in the way.